Honesty, a slippery slope for marriages and relationships:
We ask ourselves why? I trust this person, I live with this person. We have known each other for a long time. We have shared good times and bad times. Disappointments and success’s. The difficulty with honesty may come about as a result of not wanting to offend or hurt our partners feelings(Lies of omission). It may come from age old guilt or shame that is not reconciled. It may result from being angry with or partner and wanting revenge or retaliation( Lies of commission).
Dishonesty in regards to money, affairs, work, family, friends, children all have the same relational outcome. Loss of trust and commitment and at its worst leaving the couple experiencing high levels of withdrawal and apathy.
What does the road back look like. It begins with patience. That is the ability to trust the we are each capable of trust.
Willingness to be vulneralbe with each other. That is about courage and choice that I am more than my fears of rejection or revenge.
Small actions of appreciation and gratitude as well a mutual atmosphere of openenss. That is creating a positive spirit that slowly helps restore our mutual selves.